You are f**cked, but there is still time!

Let's be brutally honest - you've become an expert at deceiving yourself. We all have.

Warning: I did some user testing before sending this out and the feedback was that this is very “real” and people might not like this tone.

Believe me, this is not directed at you, this is just to make you understand what is happening to you and how can you become better.

Still, proceed at your own risk and if you think I should tone it down, please comment and I will make sure the next post is better than this!

Let's cut through the nonsense. You're lonely. Deeply, painfully lonely. And what's worse? You're pretending you're not. Yes, I'm talking to you - the one with all those perfectly crafted excuses. "I'm focusing on my career." "I'm working on myself." "I'm just too busy for relationships right now." Stop nodding. You know exactly what I'm talking about.

Let's be brutally honest - you've become an expert at deceiving yourself. We all have. We've created this elaborate fantasy world where being alone is somehow noble, where having no real friends is a sign of being "focused," and where Netflix has become a better companion than actual humans. Want to hear something interesting? Ancient Indian wisdom talks about Maya - the grand illusion. And boy, were they onto something. Because right now, you're living in your own personal Maya, a fabricated reality where you've convinced yourself that this isolation is perfectly fine. 

That career excuse? Let's tear it apart. You know who else had a career? Every successful person ever. But here's what you're conveniently ignoring: they didn't do it alone. Not even close. You think Bill Gates sat in his garage coding by himself? Dead wrong. He had Paul Allen. He had a community. He had a family that supported him. But we love to ignore that part, don't we? Because acknowledging it would mean admitting that our isolation isn't helping us succeed - it's suffocating our potential.

Here's the raw truth: you're terrified. I am too. We all are. Building real relationships is terrifying. It means being vulnerable. It means risking rejection. It means dealing with other people's chaos when you can barely handle your own. So what did you do? You built yourself a nice, comfortable prison. You decorated it with achievements and goals. You put up some nice wallpaper called "ambition" and "independence." And now you're sitting in there, scrolling through Instagram, telling yourself this is what success looks like.

But deep down? Deep down, you know this isn't right. You can feel it in your gut when you're lying in bed at night, scrolling through your phone for the hundredth time, trying to ignore that hollow feeling in your chest. Your shelves are groaning under the weight of self-help books. Your podcast library is bursting with productivity gurus. You're all about that "personal growth."

But here's what you're missing: humans don't grow in isolation. We never have. Even those ancient Indian sages you love to quote? They lived in communities. They taught each other. They connected. This isn't some feel-good observation - it's a hard truth that's been known for thousands of years. In Sanatan Dharma, they call it Satsang - the company of truth-seekers. They knew that real growth happens in connection with others, not in hiding from them.

So yes, you've made some serious mistakes. I have too. We all have. We've bought into this toxic myth that success means isolation, that achievement means loneliness, and that "focusing on yourself" means cutting yourself off from others. But here's the good news: you can fix this.

First, you need to admit that you've been lying to yourself. All those reasons you've created for being alone? They're excuses. Really good, really sophisticated excuses - but still excuses. Second, you need to understand that this won't be comfortable. Real connection isn't comfortable. It's messy. It's awkward. It's sometimes painful. But you know what? That's actually good news. Because of all that discomfort? That's where the real growth happens. Your challenge isn't to achieve more. It's not to be more productive. It's not to "focus on yourself" even harder.

Your challenge is to be brave enough to be known. To be seen. To let people in.

That project you're working on? It needs other people's input. That goal you're chasing? You'll reach it faster with support. That dream you're pursuing? It'll be so much more meaningful when you have people to share it with. You've got two choices:

• Keep living in your comfortable prison, keep making excuses, and keep pretending this is all for some greater purpose.

• Wake up and start living like a human being again.

If you choose option 2 (and I really hope you do), start small. Text that friend you've been meaning to catch up with. Join that club you've been eyeing. Say yes to that invitation you were planning to decline.

Will it be uncomfortable? Absolutely.

Will you feel awkward? Without a doubt.

Will it be worth it? More than you can imagine.

Because here's the truth: your "ambitious" isolation isn't making you successful - it's making you a shadow of who you could be. Your real success, your real growth, your real life is waiting on the other side of those walls you've built. So what's it going to be? The choice is yours. But remember - every day you spend in comfortable isolation is another day you're choosing to live half a life. You deserve better than that. We all do.

Now go do something about it.